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Benjamin Disraeli

Over the last couple years, I’ve attempted to get in touch with how I really feel about situations and how to voice those emotions. I’m not a yeller, but I’m very up front with what I think.  Note, I said “think” not “feel.”  Most of the time, people could really care less about what you think, but they do care about how something makes you feel when you are in an argument.

I often apologize for being too honest, and I catch myself apologizing for someone making me feel a certain way.  That’s not my fault.  Maybe it’s my fault for not removing myself from the equation, but my emotions are real and a direct effect of my situation. 

Therefore, you shouldn’t apologize for that.  Apologize for your actions or your big mouth, but NEVER for the way you feel. 

Ecclesiastes 9:10

I was discussing possible TMI topics with a friend the other day, and she suggested “How do you break up with a friend.”  I thought about it for a second, and then said, “Why would you want to break up with friend?”

If someone is worth calling a friend in the first place, aren’t they worth fighting for?  I don’t believe in burning bridges just because it’s the easy way out. 

I’ve had friends try to break up with me (that whole brutally honest thing has gotten me in trouble more than once), and I had to apologize, stomp on my pride, because as a friend, they were people I cared too much about to let walk out of my life. Sure I disagreed with some of their behaviors, but at the end of the day, we have to accept each other for our fatal flaws.  We all have them.

Now re-read the quote.  An old friend is irreplaceable. No one will know you like they do, have the memories, share the years of emotional support.  That’s priceless.